People shouldn't live together 24/7.  Intolerance and contempt results from too much familiarity and not enough time spent apart. Plenty of solitude and privacy preserve any chance of a lasting relationship. Freedom to have variety in activities, friends and mobility strengthens bonds. It is the basis of happiness, security and stability. On the contrary, force and restrictions are destructive and are the cause of permanent separations.

Do not save your loving speeches for you friends till they are dead

"Do not save your loving speeches for you friends till they are dead; do not write them on their tombstones, speak them rather now instead."

-- Anna Cummings

Smokers

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Gabriel García Márquez - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia:

Mark Twain - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia:
Also, Twain smoked pipes constantly, and Susan Crane did not wish him to do so in her house.

And this, the ultimate Mark Twain quote!
“The Moral Statistician.”
Originally published in Sketches, Old and New, 1893

I don’t want any of your statistics; I took your whole batch and lit my pipe with it.
I hate your kind of people. You are always ciphering out how much a man’s health is injured, and how much his intellect is impaired, and how many pitiful dollars and cents he wastes in the course of ninety-two years’ indulgence in the fatal practice of smoking; and in the equally fatal practice of drinking coffee; and in playing billiards occasionally; and in taking a glass of wine at dinner, etc. etc. And you are always figuring out how many women have been burned to death because of the dangerous fashion of wearing expansive hoops, etc. etc. You never see more than one side of the question.
You are blind to the fact that most old men in America smoke and drink coffee, although, according to your theory, they ought to have died young; and that hearty old Englishmen drink wine and survive it, and portly old Dutchmen both drink and smoke freely, and yet grow older and fatter all the time. And you never try to find out how much solid comfort, relaxation, and enjoyment a man derives from smoking in the course of a lifetime (which is worth ten times the money he would save by letting it alone), nor the appalling aggregate of happiness lost in a lifetime by your kind of people from not smoking. Of course you can save money by denying yourself all those little vicious enjoyments for fifty years; but then what can you do with it? What use can you put it to? Money can’t save your infinitesimal soul. All the use that money can be put to is to purchase comfort and enjoyment in this life; therefore, as you are an enemy to comfort and enjoyment where is the use of accumulating cash?
It won’t do for you to say that you can use it to better purpose in furnishing a good table, and in charities, and in supporting tract societies, because you know yourself that you people who have no petty vices are never known to give away a cent, and that you stint yourselves so in the matter of food that you are always feeble and hungry. And you never dare to laugh in the daytime for fear some poor wretch, seeing you in a good humor, will try to borrow a dollar of you; and in church you are always down on your knees, with your ears buried in the cushion, when the contribution-box comes around; and you never give the revenue officers a full statement of your income.
Now you know all these things yourself, don’t you? Very well, then, what is the use of your stringing out your miserable lives to a lean and withered old age? What is the use of your saving money that is so utterly worthless to you? In a word, why don’t you go off somewhere and die, and not be always trying to seduce people into becoming as ornery and unlovable as you are yourselves, by your villainous “moral statistics”?
Now, I don’t approve of dissipation, and I don’t indulge in it either; but I haven’t a particle of confidence in a man who has no redeeming petty vices. And so I don’t want to hear from you any more. I think you are the very same man who read me a long lecture last week about the degrading vice of smoking cigars, and then came back, in my absence, with your reprehensible fire-proof gloves on, and carried off my beautiful parlor stove

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“I believe that pipe smoking contributes to a somewhat calm and objective judgement in all human affairs.”
-Albert Einstein, 1950

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People don't want free advice. They'd rather pay for it.

People don't want free advice. They'd rather pay for it.

Philanthropist, anarchist, philosopher, psychologist, empath, sensitive

Philanthropist, anarchist, philosopher, psychologist, empath, sensitive

I love and have loved others far more than I have ever been loved.

I love and have loved others far more than I have ever been loved.
It's another fact that I have realized lately after seeing the lifelong
pattern of being shunned, avoided, left out, the last to find out or be invited,
being mocked, minimized, told to shut up, stay out of it, punched,
pushed down and knocked to the ground, ridiculed, threatened and humiliated.
Or, have I just been in the wrong places around the wrong people for 53 years?

My ex-friend Chuck

My ex-friend Chuck

hater
complainer
calls and views people as worthless
name calling: moron
liar
thief
miserable
lacks empathy, sympathy
doesn't understand
critical spirit
rude, impolite, often not polite
disrespects, disrespectful, does not regard rights of others
mean
selfish, self-centered
bully, bullies others
uses people, railroads others
blames others
hurry, hurries, hurried, harried
pushy
doesn't take time to enjoy life
greedy, can never get or have enough
gluttonous glutton pig hog hoarder
angry
suspicious
accusatory
self important overrate himself egotistical
has few or no friends
thankless, unappreciative, ungrateful
laughs when he takes advantage of someone or something
thinks it's funny to pull one over on somebody
always remembers what he gave, rarely remembers what he got

Most of my comrades and friends are dead.

Most of my comrades and friends are dead.

Lazy is a word only humans know.

Lazy is a word only humans know.

Cats don't bark

Cats don't bark. Dogs don't meow, Turnips don't bleed. Cold, insensitive narcissistic psyopaths don't have the ability to feel the same feelings of empathy, love, concern, compassion, understanding the way a normal, loving, caring person does.

Shove Me In The Shallow Water Before I Get Too Deep

Shove Me In The Shallow Water Before I Get Too Deep
I repeat, again and again.. as many people have told me to shut up many times which I
attribute to their inability (or lack of desire) to understand depth of meaning of most things.
The surface, the shallow appearance and illusion catches the eye and that is where
their belief lies. Discuss causes, effects, connectedness, relations and relationships, processes or
complexities--essentially understanding why and how instead of just what (the end result of
what you see now) and I have gone way, way too deep.

Edie Brickell & New Bohemians - What I Am - YouTube:


What I Am Lyrics - Brickell Edie And New Bohemians:

What I Am Lyrics
I'm not aware of too many things,
I know what I know, if you know what I mean.

I'm not aware of too many things,
I know what I know, if you know what I mean.

Philosophy...
Is a talk on a cereal box.
Religion...
Is the smile on a doll.

I'm not aware of too many things,
I know what I know, if you know what I mean.
D-do ya?

Shove me in the shallow water
Before I get too deep.

What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what?
What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or... ?

Oh I'm not aware of too many things,
I know what I know if you know what I mean.

Philosophy...
Is a walk on the slippery rocks.
Religion...
Is a light in a fog.

I'm not aware of too many things,
I know what I know, if you know what I mean.
D-do ya?

Shove me in the shallow water
Before I get too deep.
Shove me in the shallow water
Before I get too deep.

What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what?
What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what?
What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what you aren't?
What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what?

Ha-la-la-la
I say, I say, I say
I do, babe.

Shove me in the shallow water
Before I get too deep.
Shove me in the shallow water
Before I get too deep.

Shove me in the shallow water before I get too deep.
Shove me in the shallow water before I get too deep.
Shove me in the shallow water before I get too...
Deep.

Don't let me get too deep.
Don't let me get too deep.
Don't let me get too deep.
Don't let me get too deep.

What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what?
What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what?
What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what you aren't?
What I am is what I am. Are you what you are - or what?

Oh what you are.
Oh what you are.
Oh Oh Oh
Said what I am
Is what I am...

Only those in the entertainment industry can get by with what I do everyday and get paid for it.

Only those in the entertainment industry can get by with what I do everyday and get paid for it.
I don't get paid, I get ridiculed, criticized and ostracized.
I say and do a few things that are different than the majority but since I am not part of a
prominent family and don't have any influential friends or relatives, I am a reject.
If I were a musician, an actor, a model or involved in any other high profile career,
I'd probably be admired and respected instead of shunned and mocked by family, "friends"
and neighbors.
I have repeatedly been the employee who is bullied, kept down and left out in social gatherings, important news and events. And I suppose I am the laughingstock of the neighborhood.

Adjectives used to describe me:
Natural, real, open, friendly, honest, outspoken, sensitive, kind, caring,
generous, understanding, sympathetic, knowledgeable, considerate,
respectful, unique, compassionate, accepting, helpful, genuine, intelligent,
trusting/trustworthy, introspective, thoughtful, emotional, intense and
several have told me I was beautiful inside and out.

52 weeks in a year, Spend at least one week in each state

52 weeks in a year, Spend at least one week in each state