has people showing up at home randomly unannounced or very little notice

 has people showing up at home randomly unannounced or very little notice

does not tell me anyone is coming over

Slacker when it comes to basic things. Runs off to get instant self gratification in other things

SLACKER when it comes to:

 taking out the trash

solving problems of daily frustrations quickly

cleaning the bedroom, bathroom, living room, kitchen, garage, any room in the house

doing laundry, dishes

getting rid of animals cats dogs guinea pigs ferrets any kind of

cleaning up after pets

doing things with woman, wife, girlfriend that she likes

IMMEDIATE Self gratification:

Sex

food

get money 

helping their weird friends and neighbors asap

He and others have to have

 constant outside focus on something like audio radio video tv internet physical activity

loud mouth news or sports people 

loud music of various genres

control

listen to crap and watch stuff so they dont have to sit with their thoughts and think

games played like chess 

never meditate, be introspective

never candle gaze or look at beauty of nature like a butterfly 

dislike reading a book

would rather look at fast moving  pictures

these guys must have constant aggravating competitive stimulus and they do not listen to their wives do not like peace calmness relaxation originating from within themselves

they have short fuses blow up quickly lose their temper over little things like other drivers spilt water or any substance

they cuss curse god alot at every opportunity

stare profusely at naked or partially nude women or faces of pretty cute females girls

must have dessert immediately at the end of a meal

eat too fast or eat while working or walking

think sex is just a form of exercise

leave mess after eating

ignore laundry

let trash stack up

keep tabs on me and what others are doing

think big things are what counts most

do not keep me informed ongoing basis instead toss things at me last minute

shoot orders

hate artistic minds like mine

detest poetry cant understand it

make secret phone calls and texts

praise each others prowess work

demoralize women

say i am mad pissed off that just burns my ass i ought to knock you on your ass i should bust you now in the face. you are lazy for relaxing reclining when you eat. you are worthless good for nothing stupid dont deserve anything

say shut the f up get outta my face

Hours daily dealing with food, dish washing, messes made by them. HUGE time waster

 Time wasters:

Food searching, prepping, cooking, washing, throwing away the trash food scraps and garbage. Organic food scraps and meat packages that stink to the high heavens if not done properly.

Dirty dishes, glasses, silverware, pots, pans. Constant mess.

He says "It's NO big deal" every time he grabs another glass, a bowl, plate or a piece of silverware that did not need to be DIRTIED. 

I am the one wasting my time, energy, money, water, electricity, soap, cleanser dealing with this stuff every single day. It destroys my hands and fingernails, my skin looking worse by the minute. My nails split, peel, crack, break and my hands look terrible and old.

These men in my life : MLS, ECM, MCM, JWL do NOT deal with this shit.

They just want to eat FAST food, ready made, leave the mess, take off and go do what they want to do which is work on some project usually outside then sit around watching screens for hours upon hours on tv, computer, cell phone for the rest of the day. They watch stupid videos, news, some music they like, a bit of porn sex movies here and there when they feel the urge.  They play games. One plays chess at any oppotunity. One plays video games. Another one likes things like monopoly and card games like poker, spades, hearts.

They accumulate crap in the house, on the property, in any available space like garages and sheds and often extend their storage areas into other people's properties. They store stuff all over and often use unmarked containers: cardboad boxes are a favorite thing to store crap in, that way other people don't know what is in the box. Some stash their porn away in hidden places, others leave it out in the open.

They do not take out the trash immediately. Instead letting the garbage pile up. they do not clean out the trash bins cans or recycle containers. Several use cover up sprays to try to fix the stinking smell of a rotten garbage can. Or they will buy all kinds of expensive fancy cleaners for specific things instead of doing basic cleaning out of all things with soap, cleanser, baking soda, vinegar, bleach and water.

They complain about the smell of a disinfectant spray, the smell of vinegar. One complains about certain food smells or things like hairspray I use rarely but can inhale gasoline fumes and sprays used for automotive work with no problems whatsoever.

Most will put their hands on everything and anything then touch and spread their germs and grease and dirt all over because they do not wash their hands as they should.

Door jams, cabinets, refrigerator handles, microwave doors and any area they touch are black. They are not conscious of what they touch and do not give one rats butt about it.

A few of them sneeze out in the open blowing their sputum and spit and spray all over the room.

One uses the same old black dirty filthy rag to wipe down anything and everything. He keeps black rags in the shower and the bathroom is absolutely filthy. The floor is covered with containers and other things he does not move and clean and does not clean the floor in the bathroom or the walls, the sinktop or the entire shower or the toilet.

Several scatter their junk and things all over the house, the yard and anywhere else.

Every one of them loves to look at cute, pretty, beautiful girls, young women. 

One man who died 2 years ago never got married, never lived with a woman he had intimate relations with because no woman would put up with him. He was a complete mess, had a bad temper blowing up quickly over material things. He was a hoarder obsessed with collecting things. He prized his things and money more than anything else. He never had children thank goodness so his genes were not passed down neither his legacy. He was adopted and never knew who his real mother and father were. He paniched whenever he saw water anywhere to clean with. Water was seen as damaging because he tied it into electronics; televisions, stereo, amps, headphones, record players, tape decks which can easily be ruined by water. His house was never cleaned since his mother died in 1992. In 2021 he sliced the bottom of his left foot open on something, he claimed he stepped on a deli slicer and got perotinitis blood poisoning. He called me asking me to come over and get his crutches in the basement because he couldn't walk down the stairs. I ended up clearing out his house. He ended up in the er at St Lukes East then was transported to several hospitals, care facilites then finally at a nursing home in Independence, Missouri where he died on May 11, 2023.

Interesting because the man I live with is also panic stricken when he sees a drop of water on the floor, the countertop, behind the sink faucet, water sprayed onto the house especially the vents in the eaves of the house outside (soffit). He is also a money, material thing worshipper. Mammon is his god. 

They also get mad at me for cooking "too much food at once" or feeding a cat or other animals "too much". They all eat little bits of food all day long which I do not do.  They like to buy already made foods, drinks, spices, etcetera. Foods that are put into containers with measured portions. Individual serving sizes. (I hate doing that because it costs more money and is very unhealthy)

he does not want to

 do things for others. 

will do things for money. self satisfaction gratification, physical pleasures like eating, sex

clean his room

do laundry, deep clean house

cook or make prepare own food or cook for others

raise children

relate to others

empathize

(will work hard or long hours for material gain, to boost ego, own material things)

seek spirituality understanding

do something for someone else for free

self analyze, reflect

respect, appreciate his mother

enjoy simple things

admit his mistakes. shortcomings

follow rules. laws guidelines 

go to the doctor

controllers isolate block from world

 thrive on your ignorance to maintain control

discourage your curiosity exploration connections new experiences

block originality creativity self direction and will

try to mold me or you into their desire

force their mindset onto other beings and things

hate change unless they do it

cannot be reasoned with

He says I have flawed thinking

individual serving sizes he likes in beverages drinks food

 the list is very long in what he buys in food and drink it basically covers every type of food and preferences for fast food in little containers

it is as if he cant figure out how to proportion the sizes of food and drink on his own

buying this shit for convenience is the most expensive way to pay for stuff 

he can take one bite or two and quit then go on and take a drink or bite of something else

NOT ME.. one bite or drink of somehing that tastes good and i can't quit eating or drinking it until i am full. i like to satisfy myself completely with anything fulfilling my desire and appetite or long periods of time.. like feasting whereas he has a famine attitude perception of all things

 

 

Fixed in thinking and habits

 Food remains same. No changes

Types of videos watched same

Music preferences same

Furniture stays in one place

Has sex same way most of the time

Changes in scenery location not liked

Movement of objects in house or business not liked unless he she does it

Sees no need to change things

Dislikes deep cleaning house bathroom kitchen garage bedroom basement because requires moving everything in room

Surface spot cleans isolated small areas

Upset easily if i change my hair 

Upset if i change clothes esp when out not at home

Watches people closely esp those not living in house

He was always there

 and I did not realize it until now. 
I found his handwritten letter from september 22, 1986.
I had left, gone somewhere don't remember where I was that day. I had left him because of his ways and I thought he didn't love me. I was wrong. Oh, so very wrong. 

HE IS STILL THERE... watching. listening. waiting. and probably longing..

Gets restaurant food brings it home

 Prefers to eat out over home cooked food

Forces food upon me and others

Eats every couple of hours snacks a lot

Sugary drinks liked

Doesn't want to relax while eating at a restaurant 

Criticized partner family members and people to death

Full of shoulds

Trying to impress

Status public image dominates takes precedence over the way they treat spouse wife children 

Money motivated 

House truck car material things top priority 

What will the neighbors think. Don't embarrass me attitude 

Mother haters

Sex and duty duties are expected out of wife. No relationship exists outside of that

Obsessed with videos tv radio blasts it loud and does it while people are eating so they can't focus on the meal

Demanding entitled attitude as if they are the king and don't have to do lowly duties like dishes and cleaning house 

Yet will make tremendous efforts to keep their car washed 

Lights off demanded

Oogles teen girls 

Will work for money

Will connive wheel and deal to get what they want

One has at least one concubine. The other I am not sure 

Impulsive and rash 

Conniption fit if you touch their car truck 

Protective over taking good care of material things but not careful with people who are close to them

With other people and strangers is very polite 

Those who expect me to be available at the drop of a hat...

 and cater to their whims of the moment

they don't give me much notice or no notice about anything

expect me to do what they want and be available instantly yet they will drag on and on when i want them to do something and will come up with any excuse in the world to avoid doing what i like or want or need

they refuse to do things with me that i like

scream at me stuff like fix me something to eat!  clean it up!

say stuff like it's no big deal, i dont care what you think or what you want, that is stupid, what are you, a moron? 

Junk Man

 Wanders around getting supply for his all of his needs from many sources, mostly from people

Ignores, abuses wife girlfriend partner spouse

He invalidates minimizes woman frequently saying invalidating comments such as: 
 "It is no big deal" "I don't understand", "What do you expect/want from me?!", "I don't care what you want. This is what I want." "It's my way or the highway", "I don't have to put up with your shit", "What do you expect me to do, treat you like a queen?", "You have no common sense",  

He talks in a condescending manner about most people and is the worst with his partner

Is not affectionate at home or in public

Will not hug kiss or embrace his woman in front of anyone else

He rarely if ever compliments his wife

He eyeballs and stares at other females when with his wife. Totally rude.

He has an obvious wandering eye wherever he goes. He cranks his head to see people when he is driving and in any store, place or environment he happens to be in

He flirts with the waitress either visually or orally talking saying words even in front of his spouse

He can become suspiciously quiet in the presence of others he is attracted to in an attempt to appear cool and nonchalant as if he is a true gentleman

He expects wife to be a workhorse slave then gives her no credit for her work, duties, help, intelligence, accomplishments, beauty, success, purpose, life

Resentful and reluctant to do anything for wife. He acts like its a chore. He is hateful and dreads having to do anything for his mate

Will bend over backwards for anyone else

Often lives with mommy and daddy as long as possible sometimes for his entire life

Has no urge to move out on his own when typical teenager desires to get a place of their own as soon as possible

Does not want children or any responsibility for them

He maximizes his importance regarding his duties, work, interests, hobbies, ideas, thoughts, needs, wants, desires

He blocks spouse from formal education unless she already obtained a diploma or college degree before he met her. If she already has a professional education he downgrades her accomplishments and intelligence, her abilities and dreams and aspirations

He takes credit for anything he deems positive in life and blames partner for anything that goes wrong

He prides himself on how smart and clever he thinks he is

He calls most people stupid, thieves, robbers, burglars

He says most people will take whatever they can get and do anything they think they can get by with. Anything, regardless of laws.

Laws don't apply to him

He is a showoff and hates people that brag

He likes to keep things a complicated mess 

He imagines he is in control of all people and things around him

Cleanliness, order, accounting and efficiency upset and appall him

He glues his face into the tv, the media, his object of interest at the time and often states how amazing some people are when they do bizarre things that they began practicing since they were children

He cant understand how or why some people are wealthy for "doing nothing" 

He is easily awestruck by performers in the entertainment industry

He is never in awe about his mate surviving all of his abuse

He is getting filthy dirty often. Some take a shower. Some don't.

His body odor doesnt bother him much. Other peoples odors usually do. He wont do anything about it unless people he is trying to impress someone and they complain about how much he stinks

He grabs and eats food that is not his. He will not wait for the entire meal to be served for him or anyone else. He freely takes over another persons refrigerator, cabinets, pantry, shelves, counters or the like. He acts like an unruly savage.

He will not consider the safety of others. He strews things about and does not care if someone else could trip fall hurt themselves. These types often hate night lights, motion sensors or adequate proper lighting that remains on. 

He often lives in junk hoarding piles of accumulated stuff sometimes trash

Waits till the last minute to get rid of garbage

Uses things and people up until they are worn out exhausted dead

Seems to be unaware of how obnoxious he is

Proud of himself when he takes advantage of some stupid naive sucker fool.

He spits about wherever he happens to be. If he uses snuff snus chew chewing tobacco he spits it anywhere disregarding the fact that someone else might step in it. 

He sneezes out loud without covering his face.

He belches loud, farts passes gas and makes other noises without so much as a glimpse of a polite apology

He refuses to open or unlock a door for people especially his wife

He often has a limited vocabulary. Some of them use cuss/curse words often.

He is a hypocrite. What is good for him is not good for his wife, family or other people

He refuses to get dressed up in nice clothes. He prefers to wear the same old things daily, usually blue jeans, the same type of shirts and shoes daily. 

He expects his partner to look good only for him.

He expects to her to smile and be in a good mood regardless of the abuse, insulting comments, threats and negligence he tosses out to her daily if not hourly

Prefers fast food and portioned out items already cooked and prepared by someone else. Something easy to eat without having to think about it.  Instant premade processed food is most desired . Shopping getting all ingredients cooking homemade food is too hard takes too much time and besides cooking and being a cook is considered a lowly worthless mundane job which he feels he is too good and superior to do. 

He watches like a hawk what other people do, judging, rating, grading, criticizing, counting every bite of food they eat, how they look, how they are dressed, what they are doing, how they smell,  how much money they cost him, how much of his precious time they wasted.

Stingy with time, attention, money and things

He wants easy easiest all inclusive instant food and things

Mls: food instant prepared premade hot pockets pot pies cereal like raisin bran honey nut cheerios. Will not prepare individual items like bran flakes and raisins from another bag or box

drinks aldis green tea sweetened with high fructose corn syrup, bottled premade juices cranberry pineapple anything sweet  

spices all in one labeled for certain dishes

Random eating. Eats bites and bits of food and fruit and junk all day long except right before bedtime says can't eat heavy stuff upsets his sleep 

mouthwash ..as if that will fix internal stomach intestine problems causing bad breath

toothbrushes buys tons of them

toothpaste many brands tubes

Easy fast access to pussy sex. No commitment no communication no personal involvement no talking 

Cover up junk crap. Shove shit in tight places and hide it in cardboard boxes and generic containers or coverings so me or others dont know what it is yet he knows exactly what he put where.

Thinks snaps fingers utters orders should have instant slave response

Points out how stupid people are

Any cute little girl with tits and an ass makes his mouth water, his pants hard

Hes impressed with sams club. I am not