Narcs like to keep you confused and off balance
upset your center of gravity like you're a punching
bag or weighted doll people hit trying to knock them over
They try to wipe out your confidence and self worth
to make and keep you dependent upon them
Tactics
watching everything you do
and watching everyone else
lacks introspection
lurk like snakes observe like eagles
attempts to control your thoughts, feelings,
desires, needs, wants, emotions
fault finding, insults often about personal
things you cannot change such as your
genetically inherited looks, body, voice, preferences
for food, clothes, music, virtually anything
says you are flawed and have bad taste
because you are different from them
humiliate, ridicule/make fun of
constant criticism
threats
name calling
changes the rules of their games they play on you (a very
cunning trick to cause major confusion in you so that
you can NEVER win at any of their games
brief periods of praise, attention and "love"
a limited small number of "compliments" they give you
just enough to string you along the love line
then like a bullwhip scorpion lashing out and snapping back
reverting back to mean nasty hateful words behaviors
and actions including smirks on their face,
tsk tsk sounds of disgust about how totally stupid you are
and retreating back into the cold shoulder silent treatment
for days, weeks, months or even years
hanging up the phone on you the moment you
express a different opinion or fact they don't believe in
refuse to listen to what you have to say
cares not about what you want or how you feel
blames you for their own bad behavior and
anything "bad" that may happen
is not supportive of your dreams, ideas, visions, goals
unless and ONLY IF it coincides with and is identical to theirs
later, weeks or months, etc. denies having said the
exact words that came out of their mouth
and/or claims "I may have said something like that"
"What I meant was ..blah blah blah"
clams up and says nothing when you recount
their abusive physical actions
promptly changes the subject
turns the statement around on you saying you
were in the wrong and to blame for their bad and
disrespectful behavior
("I wouldn't have done/said that if you hadn't have
been like this or that or said or done that".
"It's your own fault" is a frequent saying of theirs)
"It's not my fault.." "You're a magnet for trouble"
narcissist information
narc busting
1-18-2020
