NEVER get with someone just because they appear to look good and the sex is great!!!!!

 Advice to my younger self and to anyone anywhere regardless of age.

Slow down. Take your time. Get to really know the person. Listen to what they say about other people and how they treat strangers. How do they get along with their family? How does he treat his mother? His sisters, brothers, cousins, uncles, aunts.  Does he talk about and treat women differently than he treats men? 

What do they say about these people behind their backs?

What kinds of associates, friends, buddies, companions does he have? What do they share in common?

This reveals their true feelings about life in general and what kind of a person they are.

The males I ended up with brag, are egotistical, not very clean about their body. They have disgusting habits like nose picking, picking at nose, toenails, petting animals, touching virtually anything and transferring the germs all over the place. Greasy handprints all over doors, doorknobs, cabinets, refrigerator, appliances, handles, furniture.  Picking up the nastiest stuff on the road or anywhere and bringing it home and not cleaning things properly.  Buying or getting used clothing and not washing it first.  Not scrubbing their bodies properly. Some didn't even brush their teeth. 
Sucking up pornography on paper and videos on tapes or dvds or on screen thru paid tv services.

Reusing old towels, paper towels, napkins. Sleeping in dirty linens bedding sheets blankets comforters sleeping bags. Throwing trash out in the yard. Leaving tools, equipment, anything laying around in the yard, the house, the driveway, anywhere.  

Leaving and making dirty messes of dishes in the kitchen sink. Griming up the countertops, the bathroom sink, toilet and shower or bath tub and not caring that it looks black and stinks of rotten mold bacteria.  

Ignoring whatever I say about hygiene, cleanliness. Causing bug problems and telling me it is no big deal to have flies, mosquitoes, stink bugs, roaches, june bugs, moths, spiders virtually any type of insect crawling or flying around the premises and inside the house. Feeding animals anywhere like tossing food on the patio, the middle of the yard and leaving bones where I walk so I could step on them. Tossing old cans of food in the middle of the backyard.

Not cleaning out trash/garbage cans. When the smell gets bad he cannot figure out where it is coming from so this one I am with actually sprayed furniture polish on the kitchen counters and expected me to prepare food on it.

They hate the smell of cleaners and disinfectants like bleach clorox lysol vinegar.

They/he sneak off to do dirty deeds like viewing hardcore porn when he thinks I am asleep or not around.

Body builder at the gym told me I was every man's dream. Other people say I am fit and in great shape

Last month in May this guy named Alex at the gym said I was every man's dream. He was very helpful and gentemanly to me, never making a pass or asking me for sex. It is one of the unwritten "rules" of the fitness centers and gymnasiums to not make passes at people.

Alex said my core was in great shape. solid.. he showed me how to use the bosu ball and several exercises

In April 2026 I took a walk north on crestview drive in my neighborhood. The neighbor, Mark hollered at me to come over up to the front porch and talk. His roommate named John said I was in great condition, beautiful and asked me what my secret was/secrets are. He asked "Does your husband tell you how great you look?" 
I said "No. He hardly ever tells me I look good."

At another gym in April I went in and sat on the rowing machine. The man next to me on a machine said jokingly "Don't make me look bad" I said "What do you mean?" He said, "You look fit to me and I am afraid you will outdo me and make me look bad."

Mornings 8-11 am he leaves. I am getting up. I like to leave in late afternoon/evening.

 Morning people/persons. Him. Grandpa Leroy.
Both intensely angry frustrated people. Drive too fast. Cuss out other drivers.
Think daytime is only time to do everything.
Never really relax.
When sitting in recliner or on sofa or in bed they are watching disturbing, challenging, tension causing thing like sports, news, politics, fighting, weather forecasts. 
Pick fights all the time.

Can't too thorough deep cleaning of anything.
Focused on teeth brushing too hard and using lots of mouthwash keeping it in mouth not rinsing it out.
Clutters up any and all surfaces and countertops.
Expects everything they want RIGHT NOW.
Have no patience for anything.

Makes big messes out of practically everything.

Stuffs face all day long. First thing in morning cookies junk food then cereal with milk.
Snacks of candy bars, potato chips or other bags of crap, donuts, pastries,
GPA drinks pepsi cola, sweet drinks lemonade sugary, soda pops, fruit punch drinks, juices, an expensive beer, a hard liquor drink. Smokes a cigar once in awhile swisher sweets or a cuban fat one that stinks really bad. Eats snicker bars alot. 

HIM drinks same sugar loaded stuff lots of different sodas dr pepper orange lemon lime and sweet arizona and lipton green tea all day long cranberry juice fruit punch hawaiian apple juice store bought lemonade. Drinks very little plain water then complains about phlegm build up in throat coughing hacking up. EATS sugary and salty snack trash all throughout the day. always buys pre flavored snack pack nuts that are covered with artificial flavors tons of salt and bull shit.

Both like to go out to eat especially fast food joints because they don't have to cook anything and they love the taste of overly salted and fake flavored stuff cooked in nasty unhealthy grease. EATs stuff without considering health benefits and what the food and drink does to them.

Belief is that hard physical labor and exercise and sex is a cure all for everything. 

Opens mouth and says any rotten thing that comes to mind never considering consequences of what they say and never taking responsibility for what they say or do. Upsets me or others and says "It's not my fault". (It is never his fault..always someone else's). Calls people stupid dumb ass idiots all the time. 

When going places that are supposed to be fun (the zoo, horseback riding, carvinal, festival, restaurant, walk in the park) it is a high intensity tension filled hurry up disaster with him/them being pushy forceful dominating and saying shit like "What do you want? Hurry up and make up your mind"

Hits me on the ass. Checks out butts and bodies and boobs of all females anywhere in person or not and makes snap judgments and comments on the condition of their bodies. "She needs to jog. She is a fat cow. That looks disgusting."

Why men like the younger ones. Some older ones

 First it is the looks. Tighter firmer body. Young face. Firm boobs butt skin face Cute. Pretty. Clean not much makeup. She tilts her head sideways. Gives that shy glance revealing her neck. 

Quieter. Young girls women usually listen more 

They are easy to convince teach persuade and con.

Some are too easy to get into bed.

Easy to use. Convenient. Had cheap or for free. Some girls will give in have sex just because he complimented her said something nice. And he never did anything for her or worked or gave her any money or material things.

The one he desires most is the one he hasn't had. Then there's the fantasy girl a virgin and the other dream woman is the whore who has no boundaries will do anything. He wants both. But after he has had her he gets bored. He keeps searching for that virgin and the perfect slut prostitute that will give him the ultimate best orgasms he's never had.

Younger inexperienced are more willing to please. Shape themselves into what he wants. Do his bidding run errands cook clean work. Go along with whatever he wants and likes. They are quick in their response. Apologize a lot even for things not their fault. Accommodating. Sit on his lap. 

 Take on his hobbies and interests and jobs. 

Flexible body and mind.

They work on their looks and smells. Smell good clean and fresh. Hair is maintained well. Clothes fit good look nice. Outfits color coordinated. Shoes cute. Or barefoot.

They run jump play and bounce. They dance.

They smile a lot giggling and laughing.

A lot of younger women haven't set their ways yet and don't have many boundaries. He can take advantage of her much easier and fool her and impress her without doing much at all. An older woman who has been around is wise to his and other men's tricks. She's heard all the lines and seen what happens to other girls. She is experienced.

He wants one with hardly any experience or past so she can't compare him to anyone.

She therefore will think he is God and can do no wrong because she doesn't know any better.

If he is a brute bully abuser she puts up with it thinking it's normal.

He wants the experienced whore in private and doesn't want to be seen in public with her so she is just hidden away tucked into a room or place where no one else sees what he does to her. He does not take her places. He desires to do all perverted things to her but doesn't want anyone else knowing what goes on behind closed doors. He's embarrassed about what an animal he is.

His pretty little virgin girl is different. He is proud to show her off. 

Some people don't want me to talk to some people because I tell the truth about what is going on

Lady. I call femals women ladies even tho they might be the opposite

 I was calling someone a lady once my son said "she is no lady, mom"

Turn offs to me by men

these don't impress me much

rough gruff rude loud boisterous dirty dishevelled pushy forceful

bragging mouthy 

overly built muscles, ugly mean looking face

forward try to get me and dont even know my name

flashing money cars things thinking they impress females

does dirty work and doesn't clean up

puts filthy hands on everything

stupid disorganized

stinky body and clothes

 rotten teeth 

eats nasty fast food unhealthy choices

eats without thinking and eats too fast like an animal

sticks fingers in everything