Boundaries need to be set established in the beginning

Never promise to love someone forever regardless of what they do

Undying blind love and commitment is the worst thing to do

If he she thinks you're trapped abuse starts and continues to get worse

 If he thinks you have nowhere else to go, no one to turn to, will never leave 

Authoritarian Hitler personality he has

 Like Eric fromm figured out he masochistic ically irrationally submits to people who appear to be leaders like Trump Donald, Mike lindell, Alex Jones and any other similar types of narcissist sociopath psychopaths.

He has a fatalistic negative attitude and view of the world and most people. Expecting the worst side of man human woman child all the time.  

He feels choiceless as if he has no choice in what he thinks says or does. All things are done out of his belief it's a duty and obligation.

Insecure lacking confidence weak fearful afraid.

I am the one living in the same house so he tries everything he can to dominate me to no avail.

He has been unsuccessful in trying to dominate anyone else as far as I know.

Told me once when I asked him who has he succeeded in controlling he said "no one.i can't even control myself"

No partner/spouse is ever good enough for him or his siblings, cousins, uncles, aunts, mother

 all of them criticized, condemned, threatened, got into fights with any person they had an intimate relationship with

that is their family way/method 

His father dad had ECT shock therapy treatments for schizophrenia

 Electroconvulsive therapy.

1960s 1970s 

Joseph Olney stillwell 

January 1911 to September