Things he says said for years

 He wants no responsibility for anyone except himself. And that is questionable.

You better not cost me any money. You better not rack up any bills in my name. You do we will get a divorce. 

I dont want to be responsible for your sons. I want no responsibility for Clayton said beginning in 1991 after I moved in and said 1987 summer I lived with him. He told me to go back to live with my husband and raise my child in 1987. 

I dont want responsibility for the welfare of any child or children anywhere.

Reflections and memories for years. 

He wants no responsibility for anyone. He often states he doesnt want the cat that my oldest son Rick gave to us in 2015. After he shot and killed our last cat because she was sick vomiting alot we had for 20 years back in 2018 or so he said he didnt want any more cats. No pets at all. He wants no veterinary costs or bills. 

He wants no medical bills for himself or me.

He complains vehemently about every bill we have. Bare basic bills. Utilities. Electricity. Water. Property taxes for house 2 cars 1 pickup truck. Car insurance. Never have a balance on a credit card or anything and pay interest. He accuses any place of collecting interest on the money if you pay them early. He pays the day before the due date on bills so the companies wont collect interest on his money. 

He says he cant control his feelings and emotions and when he gets upset and verbally or physically abuses me. It is all my fault. That I made him do it. 

"I wouldnt have done that if you hadnt have pissed me off" 

Just go away. Go live with somebody else somewhere else. You can go live with your dad, mom, son, ex husband... 

what everyone else is doing

what is "famous" on the menu

neighbors, watches intently

money is his god. gold, silver prices

there is always another woman, car, etc

what am i supposed to say or do?

you better not rack up any bills my name

you better not cost me any money

cheap tightwad

never buys a car until after first of year because of owing property taxes

does things out of duty/obligation/guilt/ external reasons

social security concerned about others getting used to think self employed meant you get no ss

authoritarian dictator control freak micromanager 

ruler of household

demands respect from everyone and does not respect anyone in his house

does not respect me or children

says this is my house i will say and do what i want

i don't care what you want

Control freaks. Narcs

They are always trying to read my face
trying to figure out what I am thinking and feeling and what I am
going to do then control my thoughts and actions

 by telling me 

"YOU shouldn't...."

"You SHOULD........"

"Here is what needs to be done... and you OUGHT to be doing this and that."
(NOT what I am working on at the moment, NOT what I have already planned on doing)

do this, do that.. whatever I am doing at the moment is wrong 

they believe I should only do things that suits them 

as if they are in charge of not only me but anyone around 

The parent Dictator. SO I OUGHT TO quit acting that way myself.  
NEVER TELL someone else what they ought to do..

QUESTIONS. Badgering me with questions about any and everything, even simple stuff that doesn't need to be asked. This begins most "arguments", battles, fights as they act like they have the right to know all and then dictate what I can and cannot do.