They , the males
want the p
he would die for it, the chance to get back HOME in there
they run after it, starved for the possibility of getting in there
and staying as long as possible
The d is optional for the F
She decides which M gets the P
IF HE gets any P
then he's a lucky MF
she could cut it off at any moment
leaving him sitting by himself
grabbing his D
wishing he was in th P
not getting any
due to his AHOLE self Undesirable NASTY self
..what I am
regardless of what I have, who I know, where I go, what I do
material things and money that I temporarily own
I identify myself with me; this is the I am
Would the queen bee be...........
mother, wife friend gf girlfriend/fiance
mate partner
NOTICED this phenonmenon amongst many men I know and have known
IF wife / girl is treated as THE queen, then mother is NOT , Mom is SHIT
IF mother is QUEEN then wife if SHIT
He treats wife like queen and mother like crap
He treats mother like queen and wife like crap
Because each one is unique.
the individual has personal preferences and choices
https://sub.garrytan.com/its-not-the-morphine-its-the-size-of-the-cage-rat-park-experiment-upturns-conventional-wisdom-about-addiction
Age 61 born in July 1961
I've been saying that for many years.
Maybe I you or we can buy people there too
Iike a new set of parents, s few kids, a spouse or two
He's 8 years old. Won't be long he'll learn to hate me as they teach him to do.
children
Kids
animals
pets
dogs
cats
deer
real
natural
any race religion ethnic background
natural, real
Material things and money
OR
Nonmaterial Spirit Source energy
Mammon or God ?
Your Daily Quotation:
"What you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it."
-- Goethe
quit trying to reason with these people
they only see one side: their own
Your Daily Quotation:
"I praise loudly; I blame softly."
-- Queen Catherine II
https://www.lovepanky.com/my-life/better-life/butterflies-in-your-stomach
How to be classy: 20 tips that make all the difference
How to be classy: 20 tips that make all the difference
Usually, our behavior is modeled after our parents’. So, if you only saw lying, backstabbing, cheating, or any other kind of bad behavior in your childhood, don’t worry. It’s never too late to transform yourself into a highly classy individual.
Just remember these tips, and try to emulate them in your own life. Start small, and come back to them often. You can’t change all at once. But every time you make a conscious effort to remember these traits, they’ll become a part of who you are and the way you project yourself to the world.
So here’s how to be classy, in the subtlest and most powerful ways!
1. Don’t create drama
Unfortunately, some people thrive on drama. They will lie, pick fights, and say or do anything to get people riled up. But that’s not classy. If you want to know how to be classy, don’t go creating drama. Just don’t. [Read: Attention seeking behavior and why some people go looking for drama]
2. Stay away from drama
Okay, so many you’re not a drama creator, but if you even participate in drama, then that’s not classy. Perhaps your friend passes on a story about another mutual friend, and then you both decide to hold a grudge. That’s not classy. Don’t hang around people who create drama, and certainly participate or pass it on.
3. Dress tastefully
The media tells women that we need to dress “sexy” or “slutty” to gain a man’s attention. Well, that’s just bull. Sometimes, less is more. Don’t show up to a job interview or a first date looking like a call girl. Dress like you respect yourself and that you feel like you have nothing to prove with your body. [Read: How to be sexy, look sexy and feel sexy without ever trying too hard]
4. Be polite
Ahhhh, what ever happened to saying “please” and “thank you?” What happened to opening and holding doors for random strangers?
These basic etiquette are slowly becoming a thing of the past *or so it seems*. Don’t be selfish – think about others and have behaviors toward them that is polite. [Read: 15 tips to be nice and loved by all in just a couple of minutes]
5. Be respectful
Just because you are a liberal and your friend is a conservative, that doesn’t give you the right to trash them and their beliefs. Everyone deserves respect, so always remember that.
Treat the CEO of your company just the same way you do the janitors – or a homeless person. If you want to know how to be classy, this is definitely one you can’t forget.
6. Don’t be jealous
I know… jealousy is a natural human emotion. However, that doesn’t mean you have to talk about it or act upon it. Classy people keep it to themselves or share it with a very close friend. They don’t go raging on about their jealousy. That’s just not cool. Or classy. [Read: The subtle signs of a jealous friend you may not always recognize]
7. Be happy
You might not think happiness is part of learning how to be classy. But happy people have no need to prove themselves to others. And because of that, they don’t have to resort to doing anything that might embarrass themselves just to get attention. [Read: 13 happy things you need for a perfectly happy life]
8. Have passions
If you want to know how to be classy, have some passions! If you don’t have any, then just try things out. Everyone will find a passion eventually. Classy people have a sense of purpose, and they follow their passions.
9. Watch your body language
Many times, people aren’t even aware of the messages they send to others via their body language. But classy people are more conscious of it. They restrain themselves from rolling their eyes or getting too touchy-feely on the first date if it’s inappropriate. [Read: The classy girl’s guide to be more attractive to men]
10. Don’t jump on the bandwagon
There will always be fads and trend that are cool and fun to try. But just because all of your friends are doing something, wearing something, or saying something doesn’t mean you have to as well. Be your own person and think about your actions before you jump on the bandwagon.
11. Don’t post too many thirst traps
Everyone’s on social media, and posting selfies and keeping everyone updated on our personal lives has become a kind of norm these days. [Read: The most obvious thirst trap signs that scream “I want attention”]
But are you taking it to the next level by posting several thirst traps all the time? Sorry to offend anyone who does this, but research shows that one of the reasons they do it is to seek attention. If you want to know how to be classy, then stop making it all about yourself. [Read: What is a thirst trap and what it says about your self-esteem]
12. Have empathy
Speaking about making it all about yourself, classy people also have empathy for others. Even if they don’t agree with what other people say or do, they still express that they understand their point of view. When learning how to be classy, this is one of the vital characteristics you must possess.
13. Have self-confidence
Many people think that being self-confident is cocky or arrogant. But it’s not. The people who come across as cocky or self-loving are the ones who really don’t feel good about themselves.
Classy people just have a vibe they give out to the world that shouts, “I’m a great person, I love myself, but I have no need to announce it to the whole world.” [Read: How to build self-confidence – 16 ways to realize you’re worth it]
14. Don’t ever lose your cool
Emotions are hard to control, and some find it even more difficult than others. But even when you are angry at someone, you will want to remain calm so you don’t say or so something you’ll regret.
Take a break and walk away if you can’t do it in the moment. Don’t let your emotions rule your life and ruin your relationships.
15. Be authentic
Everyone can spot a fake person from a mile away. And being fake isn’t classy. If you’re always trying to be someone you’re not, ask yourself why you are doing that? Just be authentic. Be yourself. Be honest. All of those things are vital if you want to know how to be classy. [Read: How to recognize fake people and stay away from them]
16. Be true to yourself
What I mean by this is that you should stay true to your values and beliefs. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do.
Don’t be a people-pleaser or a doormat. Know your personal boundaries, and don’t be afraid to kindly and gently tell people when they have crossed over them. [Read: People pleaser – 20 common signs most people just don’t see]
17. Surround yourself with positive people
Positivity breeds positivity. And classiness breeds classiness. So, if you’re hanging out with a crowd of people who don’t love themselves, create drama, participate in drama, and always lose their cool, chances are that you will end up being like that.
So, you need to find people who are classy, so you can all be classy together. [Read: 25 types of bad friends you need to unfriend right away]
18. Think before you speak
Your mom probably told you this a hundred times growing up, but it’s true. Once you say something, you can’t take it back. We all get upset, but that doesn’t mean we have to blurt out every negative thing that comes to our mind.
19. Don’t gossip
Gossip is potentially hurtful. Whether the gossip is true or false, you are still talking about other people, and they may not appreciate it. So, don’t listen to gossip, and for heaven’s sake, don’t pass it on even if you do hear it. [Read: 14 surefire ways to keep it classy at a party]
20. Take personal responsibility
If you want to know how to be classy, this one is the foundation of it all. Don’t blame other people. Instead, look within yourself and own up to your actions and words. It’s not easy for a lot of people to do, but it sure is classy.
How to be a classy person who exudes confidence and charm
Use these tips to transform yourself, one day at a time. Don’t ever mistake being classy for attire, it’s a quick trick that’s only one page of the book. And you’ll find yourself even more annoyed because you’re not getting the attention and respect you demand from others.
Instead, try to become a classy person from within. Do that, and no matter where you are or how you dress, you’ll always be the cynosure of everyone’s eye, and receive the respect and admiration that’ll come your way naturally.
Taking the high road is always preferable when you want to transform yourself into a classy person. So, if you want to know how to be classy, just follow these tips, and you’ll be on the right track.
stomach in knots at almost every mealtime at home due to his anger mean fits tantrums outbursts yelling criticism threats cheapness bitching about how much food i eat and i go to food pantries get free food since january 2012 and did get food stamps until the fall of 2021 for a little over a year
gastritis and duodenitis diagnosis from dr ahmen back in 2016 which is ulcers i had for many years causing horrible pain in my right side and middle of my gut
45 years of having sex since I was 15 in 3 marriages where the sex is great but the other treatment is all about control domination power theft humiliation
Godless men indeed who care mostly about themselves
Just had a Vision of his past after he displays anger at me frustrated pissed ticked off about foundation repairs needed at house
costs too much 26,000 estimate from foundation company
house is semi bad neighborhood
not worth it to spend that much on it never get your money back if when it sells
don't have the money
can't do it all by himself
doesn't want to hire anyone else
thinks he can do it but takes a long time and is very hard work
his father and mother fretting worrying
neither one of them doesn't /don't know what to do when a situation arises
something is missing
something is broken
needs fixed repaired replaced
so frustration leads to blaming the closest person and/or people around
to take their anger out on
because they can't figure out what to do
because they are broke poor dumb and ignorant
proud and paranoid
can't let anyone in the house for fear of stealing thieves
Home house safe all the time
New vehicle
Calm peaceful life
Solitude
Autonomy
Back surgery
Justice system doesn't work
Therapy from anyone doesn't work. The other person won't seek help doesn't think he has problems, blames me for anger and vengefulnus and bad attitude
I'll be the last person you ever hurt I said
After he faux choked me then grabbed me and shoved my back into the stand up deep freezer in the kitchen at our house Tonight.
My eyeglasses fell off my head as he pushed shoved shook me. I caught them and my glasses were twisted in my right hand
No marks were left on my body
Same old tired worn out rat wheel pattern endlessly spinning and getting nowhere
When I got back home tonight after all of that physical confrontration from him I said one thing is you're probably not sleeping well (trying to justify, pacify, soothe, making excuses for him to justify the bad behavior. It doesn't work...ever)
He says If you werent so MEAN to me ...
When the fact is he is very mean to me
nasty tone of voice, nasty mean words, hateful attitude, negative outlook on almsot everyone and everything in life
told him earlier he was blameshifting and projecting his own behavior upon me and that
his mother was a troublemaker, made it very difficult for anyone to live with her and that is exactly what he does so he said that I am the difficult one and I am the troublemaker
I'll be the last person you ever hurt I said and outside the house in the driveway I said that again and he said OH who's gonna hurt me, clayton, your son or ricky?? I said No I don't know who it will be but it's not them. Of course they won't do a damned thing to him because he has befriended both of my sons and neither will defend me in any way. They stick up for him and act like I am doing something wrong.
in fact anyone that he has met has convinced them of his niceness, his great level headed opinions and work on anything so he gets by with saying or doing virtually anything to me and there is nothing I can do about it.
Your Daily Quotation:
"Never be afraid to tread the path alone. Know which is your path and follow it wherever it may lead you; do not feel you have to follow in someone else's footsteps."
-- Eileen Caddy
. My looks bad. Old puffy eyes. Not very good. Peace rest might fix it. And love
Your Daily Quotation:
"Make your life a mission - not an intermission."
-- Arnold Glasgow
Efficient efficiency
Organizing
1. Dump the trash
2. Have necessary things
3. Attention to what you're doing
4. FOCUS: No distractions
5. Stick with it (what you are doing at the moment)
until you're finished before going to next project /dute//acitivity/chore
6. Concise exact precise
7. SYSTEM
8. STREAMLINE
9. SIMPLICITY
10. LIMITS
11.
Your Daily Quotation:
"Live your beliefs and you can turn the world around."
-- Henry David Thoreau
Your Daily Quotation:
"Effective people are not problem-minded; they're opportunity-minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems."
-- Stephen Covey
keep my looking good
smiling
sweet
kind
helpful
loving
Walking on eggshells
Worried about not being good enough
Bullied badgered
True of each of my relationships and jobs careers
Your Daily Quotation:
"The history of the world is the history of a few people who had faith in themselves."
-- Swami Vivekananda
can't give someone
courage
independence
faith
will
desire
patience
fortitude
ethics
beauty
strength
Don't allow the body to heal itself
angry
skinny
fat
cow
bull
lite
energy
monster
steel
healthy (read ingredient list; will consider)
miracle
fat fake
easy
fat free
sugar free
sweet freedom
power
muscle
---------------
ingredients avoided
artificial flavor, color, fake fat, sweetener, texture
thickener fake false phony
sucralose
acesulfame potassium
equal
splenda
aspartame
phenylketonuria diet
pku
https://www.verywellhealth.com/what-is-the-pku-diet-2507160
Allison's advice. Narcissist narcopath experience.
Don't confront him/her
Watch your eyes
Control your reactions
Poker face
If he really loved you he wouldn't hurt you and your feelings
thing of something bad negative horrible and focus on that
then similar nasty thoughts happen
collecting all together becoming bigger and bigger
like a huge snowball from hell
Your Daily Quotation:
"It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop."
-- Confucius
It's about memorizing stuff
and reciting what is "learned"
Truly
Could be dead like my next door neighbor Wendy
Or in serious ly bad health like Debbie
Who used to live in the s ame house as Wendy
Or any other person
It's all about the money. Your choice. Spend lots of money of items for specific cleaning chores or use simple and cheap things to get the job done
in·cor·ri·gi·ble (ĭn-kôr′ĭ-jə-bəl, -kŏr′-)
adj.
1. Incapable of being corrected or reformed: an incorrigible criminal.
2. Firmly rooted; ineradicable: incorrigible faults.
3. Difficult or impossible to control or manage: an incorrigible, spoiled child.
n.
One that cannot be corrected or reformed.
https://www.thefreedictionary.com/incorrigible
What I can do for at least 4 hours everyday physically, mentally and emotionally as a job, a career
physical mental emotional activities
sustained on a daily basis
What I am capable of handling continually in the long run
not many things I can only do for a short period
It's not education status diplomas certificates
not intelligence or awareness
It is about sustainability. Being able to sustain and handle stuff every single day and still maintain health and sanity.
