Narcissist wants to control everything and everyone in their environment.

They will complain daily of something, either about you, someone else
or the world in general.

They are very critical of everyone and everything in the world unless
that person or thing has matched some ideal they agree with.
The person who matched their ideal is often a stranger, one they
will never meet.

You will rarely receive a genuine compliment or statement of
appreciation of anything about you. If they do say they appreciate
something about you it will be followed by a long list during many days of
things they think are wrong about you.
You will be invalidated repeatedly regarding your self,
thoughts, dreams, wishes, desires, needs, goals.
You will be told you are worthless.

They question everything about you and never listen to the answers.
They ask you the same questions again and again as long as you are around them.
They never understand and frequently say "I can't understand ...'' ,
"I don't understand". "Why did so and so do that?"

Their goal: Keep you off balance, knock you off center, question everything you do
and invalidate your reality, deny your self and existence.

Your own thoughts, feelings, wants, needs,
desires do not exist unless they fit into their strategic chess like
game plan of control.

They view themselves as the one and only king; everyone else
is a pawn.
Everyone should be identical to them. Differences are not allowed.

Name calling, humiliation and threats are common daily activities.
"You're weird, you're strange."
"I don't know anybody else who (fill in the blank)."
"I don't know how you or anyone can eat this, drink that, like the smell of that,
enjoy doing that."
"I don't understand how you think." and "You just don't think right."
"That thing you like doing is stupid."
"I don't believe that."
"Why don't you do something useful around here?"
"You are sloppy. You just don't care."
"You're not careful."
"You don't pay attention."
"You don't listen (to me). You don't pay attention to what I say and what I want."
"What's wrong with you?"
"Are you stupid?!!"
"I am not stupid!!!!"
"I know what you're thinking..." (in fact most often they don't know)
"I know how people think. They're out to get you, to take advantage of you."
"You don't deserve that. They don't deserve that." (if it is something good)
"I don't want to hear it."
"Just shut up before I get pissed off and want to hit you."

Your happiness pisses them off.

They manage to waste your time explaining simple things of life so
you are so preoccupied explaining things to them you have no time
to do what you want or need to do.

You are exhausted because simple problems are never solved.
They don't want solutions, to solve problems. They want problems
to continue so they have control and can continue the fights
over meaningless, simple and useless things.
You are anxious because you never know when the next
angry outburst and attack is going to happen.

You remain confused.
You cannot concentrate.

"He loves me, he loves me not" is the daily norm.
You never know where you stand.
Their viewpoint of you changes like the wind.

If you do everything they say they want they change the rules
so that whatever you say or do is always wrong and never
good enough to suit them.