tom presbury's mother committed suicide. Husband authoritarian dictator

Investments are locking up money. I wouldn't do it if I could

Things he says said for years

 He wants no responsibility for anyone except himself. And that is questionable.

You better not cost me any money. You better not rack up any bills in my name. You do we will get a divorce. 

I dont want to be responsible for your sons. I want no responsibility for Clayton said beginning in 1991 after I moved in and said 1987 summer I lived with him. He told me to go back to live with my husband and raise my child in 1987. 

I dont want responsibility for the welfare of any child or children anywhere.

Reflections and memories for years. 

He wants no responsibility for anyone. He often states he doesnt want the cat that my oldest son Rick gave to us in 2015. After he shot and killed our last cat because she was sick vomiting alot we had for 20 years back in 2018 or so he said he didnt want any more cats. No pets at all. He wants no veterinary costs or bills. 

He wants no medical bills for himself or me.

He complains vehemently about every bill we have. Bare basic bills. Utilities. Electricity. Water. Property taxes for house 2 cars 1 pickup truck. Car insurance. Never have a balance on a credit card or anything and pay interest. He accuses any place of collecting interest on the money if you pay them early. He pays the day before the due date on bills so the companies wont collect interest on his money. 

He says he cant control his feelings and emotions and when he gets upset and verbally or physically abuses me. It is all my fault. That I made him do it. 

"I wouldnt have done that if you hadnt have pissed me off" 

Just go away. Go live with somebody else somewhere else. You can go live with your dad, mom, son, ex husband... 

what everyone else is doing

what is "famous" on the menu

neighbors, watches intently

money is his god. gold, silver prices

there is always another woman, car, etc

what am i supposed to say or do?

you better not rack up any bills my name

you better not cost me any money

cheap tightwad

never buys a car until after first of year because of owing property taxes

does things out of duty/obligation/guilt/ external reasons

social security concerned about others getting used to think self employed meant you get no ss

authoritarian dictator control freak micromanager 

ruler of household

demands respect from everyone and does not respect anyone in his house

does not respect me or children

says this is my house i will say and do what i want

i don't care what you want

Questions he asks

 how much do you think that costs?

how much did that cost? (when I buy something)

locations and hours of businesses

Patience runs thin for redundant information I already know

 and the repeat comments of things he says that he has said hundreds or thousands of times and acts like it is the first time telling me

Sterling reputation can be ruined by false rumors

 it happens and has happened for eons

Last night he apologized to me for all the mean things he said over many years

 Only because I told him he owed me an apology.

Now that my back is severely twisted at 58 degree angle and he can see it clearly he believes me that I have pain.

I have told him for over 30 years my back hurts.

any pain I had or illness he has been negligent and in denial of it