class. grade. level. type.
status determined by level of comprehension. emotional maturity state.
not determined by financial state or formal education.
people who differ in class clash.
they cant communicate effectively with each other
sub mature man or woman with more mature person will fight, not get along. on different wavelengths. 2 immature people will fight most of the time.
in this relationship of marriage i finally realize this. we are on very different planes . explains why communication is difficult and why problems exist and have been there since day one.
educating him is nearly impossible. his personality is genetic. his upbringing shaped him. all experiences are interpreted solely through him and i cant teach him how to relate like i do.
if i had reached a very high level of maturity i would not be here . i would know it is useless to fight which is not what i attempt to do. i attempt to reach understandings and explain myself repeatedly to no avail. exhausting myself mentally physically trying to explain abstract and concrete things to a man who cant comprehend.
he grew up fighting narcs in his entire family. he did not learn ordinary manners. table. food. courtesy opening doors. using euphemisms. being empathetic. honoring boundaries. respecting recognizing appreciating . these are foreign to his learning.
grandma would have called him low class poor white trash.
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