My purpose according to him what he says how he treats me

I am to watch the house and cars when he is gone, pay bills. pay my own bills. work so i can get money to pay bills he doesn't have to pay

cook shop clean have sex whenever he wants it even though he may have just threw a temper tantrum angry fit AND act like I like it . Look innocent pure pretty and be a total slut in bed. Wear something sexy hose with holes diamond shape skimpy outfits use lube if he thinks i should and he buys none of those things for me. 

I am the on demand door mat for all of his abusive talk words anger and sometimes a punching bag AND I am to remain silent NEVER tell anyone what he says and does to me. What will they think? It is none of their business. Says we should solve our own problems I dont need a counselor shrink psychologist therapy or anyone to talk to about anything. Thinks what he says and does is not abuse and said I wouldn't get mad and do those things if you didnt piss me off...if you were normal and nice instead of being a bitch. He calls me a bitch and trouble maker each time I remind him of his verbal and physical abuse. To him abuse is only leaving marks drawing blood breaking bones.

I am to put up with his dirty ways, his friends who show up whenever they want usually expecting him to fix their stuff

To put up with him conversing talking texting to all the neighbors around here AND I am to stay out of all of and NOT communicate with the neighbors or ANYONE who comes over here including my oldest son who is ironically JUST LIKE HIM

I am to allow him total freedom to say and do whatever he wants and visit anyone anywhere he is while restricting me putting limits regarding my clothes, hair, makeup,shoes,coats, purses, hats, scarves, gloves, friends, family, associates, work, job, education, school, college, money, my talking, words, actions, telephone, phone conversations, food. drink, hobbies. fun. leisure. cleaning organizing sorting.  

Monitoring, criticizing what i look at on tv or internet or music i listen to while he is in room or around and can see or hear it. Says he hates black music which i call dance r and b soul so i cant listen to it if he can hear it.

This means I cant dance which I love to do.

monitoring criticizing how much and what i eat drink in front of him. claims coffee is bad and washes nutrients calcium out of my body. i can drink 4 or more bottles of water a day he griped about that so i bought brita filters and use that for most of my water. he claims i dont need to change filter that often. he complains when i use ice maker saying what are you doing with all that ice. make sure you listen for a pop after getting ice cubes that means the door is shut otherwise ice shoots out all over the floor. says you need to drink milk for years even though i have lactose intolerance. claims i have osteoporosis only because i did not drink milk all these years.even though doctor said after menopause women's estrogen drops causing calcium depletion. he refused to believe dr. neurosurgeon who told me last summer and another a month ago.

oh my god i only weigh 120 lbs pounds and dropped to 117 a couple of months ago due to chronic stress with him pitching a fit about something at every meal i eat in front of him . i used to weigh 135 to 145

i learned not to eat his steak sauce bbq sauce hot sauce salsa and finally learned do not put salad dressing on my salad in front of him. he always says i put too much on. last week i put a little olive oil on it with a bit of italian and he claimed i put too much on then yelled i am glad i am not buying the olive oil with the way you use too much of it

i put the bowl in front of him tossed the dressing and said look does that look like too much? after he saw it he said no it isn't too much

he bitches about me washing dishes claims i use too much soap .sd a couple of years ago you use it all up fast i buy it and its gone.

I never have his undivided attention. 

He rarely allows me to complete a sentence without interrupting and interjecting his thoughts on what he thinks I am going to say or telling me what he thinks I meant to say.  He does not listen. He will not and cannot listen to me yet appears seems to listen to anyone else especially broadcast radio tv internet movies tv shows music musician bands he likes. He is very attentive to these sources of information.