Is It Love, Or Is It Insecurity? | Psychology Today:
Is It Love, Or Is It Insecurity? | Psychology Today:
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Needing Constant Reassurance and Approval: Grace quickly saw that Adam was someone who was easily deflated. He was quick to make self-deprecating remarks like, "That was pretty stupid," or even, "What a loser!" Grace started responding to such comments by pointing out to Adam that he had a college degree and a good job, or just saying that it wasn't true.
Smothering: Once Grace got hooked into a relationship with Adam, he quickly became more or less glued to her at the hip. He wanted them to be together all the time. He didn't even like it when she was in a different room in the apartment they shared, and would come and sit beside her.
Jealous and Possessive: Grace was hardly a social butterfly; however, she did have friends and was close with her family. It wasn't long before Adam began—in little ways at first—to question Grace when she wanted to spend time with friends or family. In time, this became a major sore point between them, to the degree that, when Grace was out with a friend or paying a visit to her sister, Adam would call her on her cell phone three or four times. And if friends or family would call when Grace was not at home, Adam would often "forget" to give her the message.
Distrustful: As an insecure man, Adam was not only jealous of Grace's other relationships but also distrustful of others in general. He was forever suspicious of others' motives, believing that people wanted to take advantage of him. As a result, he was very critical of others, quick to find fault and point out their flaws. Grace found this especially annoying when Adam criticized her family or friends or questioned their motives, when she knew very well that these people loved and cared about her.
Living with an Insecure Man
Is It Love, Or Is It Insecurity? | Psychology Today:
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Needing Constant Reassurance and Approval: Grace quickly saw that Adam was someone who was easily deflated. He was quick to make self-deprecating remarks like, "That was pretty stupid," or even, "What a loser!" Grace started responding to such comments by pointing out to Adam that he had a college degree and a good job, or just saying that it wasn't true.
Smothering: Once Grace got hooked into a relationship with Adam, he quickly became more or less glued to her at the hip. He wanted them to be together all the time. He didn't even like it when she was in a different room in the apartment they shared, and would come and sit beside her.
Jealous and Possessive: Grace was hardly a social butterfly; however, she did have friends and was close with her family. It wasn't long before Adam began—in little ways at first—to question Grace when she wanted to spend time with friends or family. In time, this became a major sore point between them, to the degree that, when Grace was out with a friend or paying a visit to her sister, Adam would call her on her cell phone three or four times. And if friends or family would call when Grace was not at home, Adam would often "forget" to give her the message.
Distrustful: As an insecure man, Adam was not only jealous of Grace's other relationships but also distrustful of others in general. He was forever suspicious of others' motives, believing that people wanted to take advantage of him. As a result, he was very critical of others, quick to find fault and point out their flaws. Grace found this especially annoying when Adam criticized her family or friends or questioned their motives, when she knew very well that these people loved and cared about her.
Living with an Insecure Man
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