Social awkardness is due to fear of criticism.
The direct result of upbringing in the family.
Critical, perfectionistic parents devastate the child
with constant expectations of perfections
and the fear of making any mistake.
They shame, humiliate and
call the child bad, stupid, worthless, an idiot, a fool
if the child does anything the parent thinks is wrong
or a mistake.
Name calling and identifying the child as "bad", the
"bad behavior" instead of calling the behavior
inappropriate are tactics used to try to control
the child.
This causes much
suffering to the child's
sense of self, of adventure and creativity. Inhibiting the
child's natural desire to explore.
Awkwarndness, timidity, shyness and the desire to stay
away from people are the result.
The child grows up to be an adult who is just as critical of
others as the parents were to them
and never feels worthy enough, good enough
or deserving of joy, happiness, respect
because they were not respected as a child.
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