He told me many times I do not have to worry about him having sex with someone else...

 then throws in threats like "I will find a woman who works" and

"other women do this or that (and so should you)"

"a woman is supposed to: wear tighter pants not baggy clothes. wear makeup and nail polish. she wears cute little sexy outfits, sexy looking stockings hose hosiery for her husband. must be usable for sex."

so these statements cause confusion in my mind because they are contradictions

i love but and except when 

you dont dress how i think you should, you dont do work i think you should, you talk about things that are stupid and dont interest me, you are not available instantly when i want you to do something, you are too slow to respond, you make mistakes in any way, you cant understand what i am trying to explain to you because you are not capable of understanding it; it is too complicated (for your little brain),